On this episode of the Plan Simple Meals Podcast, I’m really excited to talk with Becca Piastrelli, about belonging and connection. Even when we are doing, doing, doing, and around people a lot there can be loneliness or disconnect.
That disconnect or lack of belonging can be a sign that we aren’t aligned with how we want to feel and the kind of life we want to live. So we need to look at how we are connected to the natural world, other people, and with yourself. You need to reach out to people, learn to love yourself, and build your belonging muscle.
One of the big tools Becca brings to feeling more connected is using practice, rituals, and intentions. These things can be calming to the nervous system and bring a greater connection to our lives. Where do you start? Where you feel the most longing.
We talk about:
- Recognizing discomfort as a place where growth happens
- Planning for space as much as for doing and cutting back on what we do and honoring unstructured time
- Having a closing ritual to your day (it could be as simple as closing your laptop and doing what you really feel like doing)
- Avoiding counterfeit connection
- Being realistic with how long things take
- The benefits of not doing all the time
Becca Piastrelli is a writer, land steward, womxn’s coach, and ancestral folk medicine keeper. She’s a storyteller, deep fertile listener, and gather-er of community. She’s dedicated to supporting womxn in experiencing a deep sense of belonging through connecting with the cycles of nature, ancestral wisdom, working with their hands, and being in meaningful sisterhood. She’s seen it set them free time and time again, going on to start circles in their towns, quit their toxic jobs, and shift the dynamics of their relationships.
Doable Changes from this episode:
- SET UP A CLOSING RITUAL. It’s easy in our ever-connected world to work all the time. Create a ritual for yourself to close the day. It could be as simple as closing your laptop or shutting out all your tabs. If you work from home, it could be stepping outside before coming back in.
- HONOR WHAT YOU REALLY WANT TO DO. Sometimes we go against what we really want in the name of self-care or self-interest. Maybe you love to paint or read. Or you set up time to see friends. But when the time comes you really just want to sit or nap. Try doing that. Try doing it even if you feel guilty or like you “should” be doing something else. What happens if you do that every day for a week?
- PLAN FOR SPACE. We all need downtime, unstructured time, time to be still or do what moves us. Block off space in your planner for this kind of time. Write Me or Space or Top Priority. If it helps write Dream or Rest. Let that space be what you want it to be when you get there. Just don’t fill it with overflow from your day. Let it be unstructured, no to do lists, nothing to check off.