If you were to spend the next 180 days doing one thing a week to move you towards your ideal life, imagine how you would feel 1 year from now.
I often serve up a platter of doable changes and let you choose. Now, I’m sharing the things I am doing each week for the first two seasons of this year because they have worked for me and my clients in the past. Maybe you’ve tried some of these before, but they are practices that bear repeating as it takes creativity, focus and consistency to reach our dreams.
Before we start, give yourself a break. Moms give a lot during the holidays, and right now, you may not feel like moving full steam ahead. You may need another week to be ready. Change happens when you decide to commit. Tune into what you really want and start when you are ready.
Whether you are trying to get healthy, parent better, improve your relationship, meditate, or make more money, you need to master your time. We have created prompts for a change a week that will help you rock 2019.
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Week 1. Start with a vision. I love this strategy from Marc Allen. On a single piece of paper write out your Ideal Scene five years from now. Five years is a period of time that’s long enough to be able to imagine great change in yourself. At the same time, it’s close enough that you can imagine yourself looking similar and having the same personality, and while technology changes fast, you aren’t waiting for time travel in order to achieve your goal. Be as creative as you can be. The biggest limit to our own lives is our imagination. Marc has a meditation to get you started here »
Week 2. What is one small hack that would support your vision? This is a small action — a little thing that will help you move towards the vision you created last week — something you can start today! For example, I have a few big goals that I will need money to make happen. If I think too much about those goals, they feel impossible and overwhelming, but if I do something to move towards the money part, I feel better. So, my hack is to put money in my calendar — I am scheduling bill due dates, weekly money meetings with myself every Wednesday, accountability calls with a friend, a money date with my husband (like mentioned in the episode with Bari Tessler.) These are all small tweaks that move me in the direction of being the person that I need to be to make my ideal scenario happen.
Week 3. Get everything out of your head and onto paper. We talk about cleansing our body through diet and clearing clutter from our homes. This strategy is about clearing your head of clutter. We hold a lot in our heads. Getting everything out of our heads and onto paper frees up a lot of mental space for being present—and taking action on things that matter.
Week 4. Write it down. Last week, we focused on a big brain dump to get clutter out of our heads and onto paper. This week, focus on writing down the things that really matter. Having a paper planner may seem redundant, but there is magic in writing down your goals. So schedule it all: your food, lifestyle, and work in one place. So often we schedule work, doctor’s appointments and kids activities, but we leave out the fun date nights, one-on-one time with our kids, and self-care time. Include the doable change you are focusing on. Plan for all of it on the same calendar! Get our tool for this here.
Week 5. What part of your vision can you tackle in the next 90 days? Write down on top of a piece of paper and then map out 10 hour long tasks that can get you towards that 90-day goal. As moms, the rug is always being pulled from under us when we plan for a year. We are more likely to get into perfection paralysis and stay out of action with the concept of a resolution. Very often I hear stories of people getting done in 3 months what they thought they would get done in a year when they focus on 90 days.
One goal in my 5-year plan is to start a school for moms that educates on food, lifestyle, spirituality, work and productivity. My vision is grand with live meetups, lots of teachers and a strong community. At the moment the thing that moves me closest to that is FLOW365, so my 90-day goal is about opening the doors again to FLOW365 and letting in the next cohort. Make sure to download the planning sheets and get on the list to hear about upcoming free planning workshops! I would love to hear about your 90 day goals!!!
Week 6. Schedule your water. Actually put reminders in your calendar to drink water. Have your electronic calendar or phone remind you throughout the day. Set yourself up for success by carrying a water bottle with you or setting water and a drinking glass in your work space.
Week 7. Plan on Fridays. Plan your food. Plan your selfcare. Plan family stuff. Plan your work. Over the weekend, think about what you can do to make Monday super successful. Sometimes just knowing is all that has to happen. Sometimes you might cook some meals or finish a Powerpoint.
Week 8. Move things that don’t get done. Check your calendar often. Review your calendar, so you know you are on track. If you skip over something, make sure to move it to a new day and new time, so you trust your planning process.
Week 9. Mark waiting times in your calendar, so you can use them to be productive. Where do you wait? We all wait as moms — in doctors offices, for kids to get out of activities, maybe your commute. You could meal plan, stretch, journal, or simply breathe.
Week 10. Have a list of 10 household things that you can do in 10 minutes. Very often household projects feel really big, so make them small. In 10 minutes, you can open mail and recycle envelopes and junk. You can clear out a drawer or shelf. You can clean out your wallet. You can take out the trash. You can organize the shoes that pile up by the door. You can sweep through a room and grab 10 things that don’t need to be there.
Remember, we created planning sheets to help you plan for these changes… Download them here.
Week 11. Have a list of 15 ways you can move your body with and without the kids. Don’t let a sick kid or a yoga class that is 90 minutes stop you from moving! Find a 15 minute yoga class on YouTube that you can do at home. Map out a 20 minute run or walk that is easy to get to. Find some good dance music and dance with your kids. It is great to put specific classes and workouts in your calendar, but if they are never getting done, it is much better to schedule a lot regular times to move your body, and then choose from the list the night before.
Week 12. Meal plan. Plan your dinners for a week at a time. If this feels like too much, at least know what is for dinner first thing in the morning. This takes away stress from dinner time, supports you in healthy eating, and allows you to plan ahead for moving food forward (stopping at the store on the way home, chopping an onion while you cook breakfast, setting up your slow cooker …)
Week 13. Add shopping to your calendar. We often assume we have time for the grocery store, but don’t really leave enough time. Figure out the best time to go, and schedule it into your week, like you would a meeting or doctor’s appointment. Always shop with a grocery list that you create from your plan.
Week 14. What is something unrelated to your vision that might affect your vision? How can you take action on that thing this week? Maybe you are looking for clients, but your desk is a mess. Clear your desk to make space for new clients. Maybe you are trying to get healthy but you spend all your free time driving kids around. Spend time creating a carpool. Maybe you are trying to finish a big project and have tight deadlines. What would happen if you focused on getting better sleep?
Week 15. Create a rhythm for your meals that is repeatable — tacos on Tuesday, soup on Wednesday, crockpot on Thursday. Don’t waste time reinventing the dinner wheel every day. Creating a rhythm will make meal planning easier and is a great strategy for opinionated little eaters.
Week 16. Schedule all the time in your day. Put dinner in your calendar first, so you never over-schedule it away — at least some nights each week. Don’t leave relaxation and self-care to chance. Instead, block out downtime and hold it sacred.
Week 17. Define the next 90 days. Before you do this, learn from the last 90 days. What can you let go of? What really worked? Look back at your ideal scene. Where do you need to go for the next 90 days to move you towards that life.
Week 18. Schedule food prep time each week at the same time. Two hours on a Sunday can save you hours throughout the week. Scheduling it at the same time and associating it with an event will turn it into a habit. So always do it after you exercise or before dinner, rather than at 4pm.
Week 19. Track your time. Sometimes we think we are busier than we are. Sometimes we waste more time than we know on emails, Instagram, and extra errands. Track your time for a week. It is only through tracking, without judgement, that you can improve.
Week 20. Order pantry items once a month online. There is no need to get things like beans, pasta, rice, oats, or crackers each week. Buy anything you can in bulk once a month.
Week 21. Write a list of 3 things that you can do first thing in the morning to take good care of yourself — make a smoothie, meditate for five minutes, walk for 20 minutes, plan your day, read for 10 minutes, take a shower … Put 30 minutes in your calendar to do them.
Week 22. Sync your digital calendar with your spouse and older kids. Keeping your plans to yourself, makes it harder to delegate. Plus you don’t need to be the keeper of all the events.
Week 23. Take in the magic. As you lean into dreaming, planning and staying in action, you will start to see magic happen — meeting people in line at the grocery store that can help you, a butterfly landing on your sleeve, a check in the mail unrelated to the job you are working on. Take those in, write them down.
Week 24. Start with the veggies when planning. So often when trying to get healthy, we focus on what we need to take out. But what if you focused on adding more vegetables? Instead of saying, “We will have chicken and kale on the side,” say, “I want to create something that has kale, broccoli and sweet potato.” It will start to change the way you think about what you want to eat, even when you are not in planning mode.
Week 25. Plan for connection. Sometimes as we make changes we isolate ourselves and then blame a disconnection on our spouse or friends. GIving focus to the changes you want is good. Just make sure that each week you consider a few people you want to connect with and how — reading with a child, a date night with your husband, a walk with a friend. Schedule time for that in your planner.
Week 26. Know what you want to receive. This process started off with writing exactly what we want. We built in a few weeks to support that declaration, but are you really open to receiving? Very often, we are not. I find the practice of just saying, I am open to be quite powerful. I am open to receiving money. I am open to receiving love this week. I am open to new friendships. I am open to getting healthy. It may sound really silly, but I have seen people wish for something like a career change, have an opportunity to go to a meeting, and say no because they don’t feel ready. To help you lean in to receiving and manifesting, listen to this podcast with Star Staubach or Jen Mazer.
Week 27. Know what you want to give. Giving and receiving are really connected. They each in turn create space for the other. Often as busy moms and women we over give, so this is a prompt to be super intentional. I want to volunteer at the kids school when it gives me an opportunity to hang with my kids. Or I want to help at my kids school when I can use my design skill set. Both are a desire to help, but for different reasons that will help two different individuals feel the way they want to feel.
Week 28. Block time in your calendar each day for your calls and emails. If you take care of them all at once they take far less time — and they don’t eat into time you planned on doing something else.
Week 29. Do the hardest thing first. Whether that is exercise, grocery shopping, or writing your masterpiece, start with that. We often put off what matters and spend our days doing less meaningful activities (or procrastinating from doing the hard stuff) and “wasting” time we don’t want to waste.
Week 30. Pay attention to your energy. Sometimes we schedule a hard day of exercise or a full day of presentations on the heaviest day of our period, only to feel inadequate. If you know that you have certain low energy or high energy days, schedule accordingly. If there are months when you feel sad or extra energetic plan accordingly. You can get done in an hour what might take a full day at another moment. Play detective to what this means for you. If this is not something you have ever paid attention to, then spend this week paying attention. If you are trying to do a task in the house or for work and it feels like an uphill battle, ask yourself whether you need a walk or a nap, and then return to the task.
If you integrate these doable changes each week, you will undoubtedly see change. But remember, this works when you focus on one doable change at a time. If you are feeling super motivated and decide to jump in on all 30 changes at once, you are likely to get overwhelmed and burn out without making change. Focus on one change each week.
I’ve laid out these specific changes for a reason. As I mentioned, I’ve seen these work again and again for myself and for clients. But if a particular change doesn’t resonate with you, try one of the doable changes in The Next Right thing, the tool offered for Food, Lifestyle, Om, or Work
Remember, consistency counts. But if you miss a day or a week or get off track, just start again. Keep making doable changes that move your toward the big changes and the life you want. If you want reminders, make sure to sign up to get weekly emails…